And how are the parents doing? It is an emotional time for all of us, students and parents. The emotions are mixed. Our head says one thing and our hearts may say another. Those of us with freshmen college students leaving the nest for the first time may be very sad or excited for their student, or some combination of both, while some parents may be feeling a sense of relief that their child is “finally” out of the house.
It is okay to miss your child, but be excited and encouraging for their new “adventure”. Homesickness is a normal part of the process for both the student and their parents. Encourage their new independence. The number one reason students leave college and don’t return is they have failed to make a connection with someone or something at the school, so encourage them to get involved and take advantage of activities.
No matter what emotions you have, it can be a very stressful time for you and your spouse and you may not see eye to eye on how to deal with new challenges. If you need help working through any of the stresses, emotional, financial, etc., consider mediation to help you and your spouse work through this time of change and transition. Marital Mediation focuses on specific issues and helps you both move forward.
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