Month: July 2013

The Rochester Association of Family Mediators

It is important for new mediators to discuss issues with more experienced mediators, mediators of all levels of experience to bounce questions off their peers, and for the exchange of information to occur in the mediation community.  The Rochester Association of Family Mediators (“RAFM”) is a professional organization of family and divorce mediators practicing in the greater Rochester area.  It is an excellent forum to meet the needs and goals of local mediators.  Mediators from as far away as Oneida, Tompkins, and Genesee Counties have taken advantage of the programs offered by RAFM.  There are regular meetings on the second Tuesday of each month (September through June) from 9:00 AM to 10:00 AM,  in the Stage Conference Room of Brighton Town Hall, 2300 Elmwood Avenue, Rochester, NY 14618- guests are welcome.   For more information on RAFM, check out the website



Rushing through the many decisions that need to be in your settlement agreement when you are separating or divorcing, is never a good idea.

People divorcing or separating are in crisis. Whether you are aware of it or not, you are going through a loss and must give yourself time to adjust to this huge life change. Even if you are the one initiating the split, you need to take the time to make thoughtful and considered decisions. The decisions you make in your Settlement Agreement, whether you are seeking a legal separation or a divorce, are lasting. Once these decisions are made and filed by an attorney, changes are very difficult to make. You need to be as sure as you can when making these decisions that will affect your future.

In mediation, YOU set the pace of the process. You must decide many things including: parenting decisions (if you have children); equitable distribution of assets and liabilities; and any support issues, both child and spousal. You can take the time you need to make the right decisions for your family.

You are also in control of the decisions that are being made in mediation, rather than an attorney or judge. Mediation gives you the ability to make customized agreements that suit your situation best.

Mediators are trained conflict resolution specialist who facilitate conversations as neutral third parties, providing you the information you need to make good/informed decisions. This empowers you and your spouse throughout the process. You decide what decisions get made and how those decisions are applied to your specific situation.

For more information call: 585-269-8140 or email [email protected]